With life comes change, the unexpected changes are what shakes your life out of wack, momentarily of course.
You ever feel like you’re just getting everything in your life on track and then a major change knocks it all out of balance? I’d like to believe that’s the lords way of preparing you for something MORE.
Massive Opportunities Requiring Effort.
The real catch to these life shifts is whether you will let it make or break you. Why ponder on your frustration that you were so close to everything in your life finally coming together? Or so you thought, there is always MORE, you are always being nudged to SERVE in a grander capacity. Why not accept what is and let everything else take its course?
Selfless Engagement Regarding Vulnerable Efforts.
For many of us, we’ve been told what to do majority of our lives. Go to school. Don’t do this. You have to do that. Look this way. Move over that way. WHAT ARE YOU DOING? NO YOU CANNOT DO IT THAT WAY! THIS IS HOW ITS DONE. There has always been someone telling you what to do, how to do it and what part of your doing is acceptable. Now you’re feeling lost when it comes to unexpected life changes, there’s no true direction, or so you think.
Being a firm believer in the phrase “everything happens for a reason” has truly shifted my perspective. Releasing the extremely tight hold my fatherless emotions had on me is the greatest testament to allowing that phrase to free me. I still struggle with questions that will never be answered but they are not as loud. I still get emotional when I think of how important the role of a Father is, especially for a little girl, but the emotions are not as heavy. I still cling to connections with men who make me feel safe and loved in one way or another but now it’s so much easier for me to release when that ship has sailed and no longer serves me.
There is no easy way to navigate through the unexpected but there are ways you can alleviate the forceful sensation of overwhelming emotions that pour in when change disrupts your ‘plans’. Here are a few tips to exercise when you are faced with unexpected life changes:
- BE STILL, do not allow your emotions to rush you through navigating the changes that have arrived.
- Ask yourself, is there an upside to this unexpected change that can benefit me now or in the near future? If the answer is yes, allow yourself to accept this change with an open mind. If not, lean on your faith that there is something good to come out of this change that you may not quite see yet.
- Go back to the drawing board. If this has put a damper on your ‘current plans’, incorporate the change into a new ‘plan’.
- Reflect and remember a time where you experience an unexpected life change and how you maneuvered through it. Not only should you look at the ‘good’ but also the ‘bad’ because you are evolving, analyzing past experiences can help you better navigate current situations.
- ACCEPT, ACCEPT, ACCEPT! Instead of rejecting the change at first, accept the challenge. Then accept the fact that this is your reality now. Lastly accept that this may be out of your control right now but you have the choice to make the best of the change and not let it break you.
- If you are in no space to accept change, allow yourself to react to the unexpected life change however you see fit but remember that you may not see the benefit or even the purpose but that doesn’t mean there isn’t any. Do with this tip as you please.
The above tips are not textbook they are just suggestions and honestly if you are not in the part of your journey where you have an open mind or willing to accept different perspectives, that is perfectly fine. Even when we are in those challenging points of our journey, what’s meant for you will stick then when you are good and ready I guarantee you will be reminded of the part of this article that was specifically meant for you.
None of this is by mistake, you have not read this for no reason, everything happens for a purpose and that purpose is different for us all. Allow yourself grace when navigating through unexpected life changes, there is already enough demand that’s been projected onto you in this lifetime. Do not let the unexpected life change, that may be a blessing in disguise, knock you off your game, be sure to pivot and make the best of what you’ve been given.
DRÁP Social 