Although there are certain voids that cannot be filled, like missing the presence of a lost loved one, there are fulfilling things you can do to shower yourself with experiences that can fill the void.
Now I’m not saying it will actually fill the void of the missing loved one, what I’m saying is you can continue to fill other cups in which brings you joy, love, excitement and fulfillment in place of the emptiness you may be feeling.
I know it’s hard to think in this way especially when you do not want to allow anyone or anything else to fill that void. Let’s put it this way, if you are showered in love from various angles of your life but you have moments of wanting or missing that love from a lost one, understand that simply being grateful for the love you do experience will fill that cup. If you are nurtured in different aspects of your life where you may typically self destruct, just because you cannot be nurtured by that specific person you are missing does not mean you are not nurtured at all. Allow that to be enough for you to fill the void of wanting to be nurtured.
Get to the root of the void, what exactly are you yearning for? When you begin to dissect what you are truly missing, I bet you can also find where you do not lack what’s missing. You may just want it from a specific person that you have lost, like me I struggled for years with the empty void of my father, but when I let go of the selfishness and the intangible questions I realized that I had all that I truly needed and this is not to shut out the yearning for my father who was taken from my family, this is just to help me navigate through life operating through a more positive lends.
Creating anything from poetry, art pieces or a safe space to just be free has always been my way of expression, learning that my father was a creative brings me joy and that has helped me fill that void. I had to find positive ways to fill the emptiness I felt growing up, leaning of the idea of connecting with him through the arts was one and building a legacy in his name is another. In what ways do you aim to positively fill the void? Although losing someone you love or being robbed of the opportunity to experience love from someone, forms a huge void within you, know that there are always ways to look at the glass half full rather than half empty. You also have the power to continue filling that cup to essentially fill the void.
Lean on love in times of hardship, focus on what you do have and find what works best for you to positively fill the void, whatever that void may be for you.
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